We like to think that we get wiser as we get older, but that knowledge comes from experience, especially failing at things. A Reddit post digs into this by asking, “What’s a common mistake people make in their 30s?” A lot of people have ideas about this topic and these are some of the best of the more than 3-thousand responses.
- "Being concerned about not being the young, trendy generation anymore. Wear your skinny jeans all you want!"
- "Comparing your lifestyle to other 30-somethings."
- "Making relationship decisions based on avoiding/meeting/holding on to milestones by a certain age. (I can't be a divorcee at 34, I have to be married by 34, I need to start a family in the next two years, I'm too old to start dating again, etc.)"
- "Having kids for the sake of having kids."
- "Romanticizing your 20s and fearing your 40s. Live where you are."
- "Not fostering friendships. As you enter your 30s, maintaining and nurturing friendships becomes more challenging. It's a time when connections can fade, and forming new ones becomes more challenging. It's very important to invest effort in the friendships you currently have."
- "Not listening to your burnout signals and just settling in for the long haul. You’re not going to make it. And if you do 'make it,' you won’t like yourself or the sacrifices you had to make along the way."
- "Spending way too much money. Lifestyle inflation can really take off in your 30s."
- "Staying at a job they are severely unhappy at and accepting toxic work environments."
- "Thinking we can still drink a ton and recover for work in a couple of hours."
- "Thinking they're old [in general]. I refuse to waste my life away worrying about being old or that I'm too old to do things. I think so many people are going to regret thinking 30 was old when they're actually 'old' — whatever that means."
- "Settling for a spouse."
- "Panicking. You do not need to have a great career, a partner, a four-bedroom house, and a baby on the way just because your 20s are over. Relax."
- "The biggest mistake I made in my 30s was not enjoying them more. Try to carpe diem every once in a while — the decade passes VERY quickly."